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Most first dates were a bit nerve-wracking, as you are after all meeting a complete stranger or potential psychopath, but getting to know each other was quite easy. If conversation topics ran out, we could always talk about life in Japan or abroad, or worse case scenario, how good I was at using chopsticks. In a way, being from different cultural backgrounds made it easier to find things to Top dating sites in japan about.
If my dates were always very friendly, it was sometimes hard to tell if they were interested in me or not.