The chase for the Commitment Phobe is like their bread and butter. No one is better at it and you will be sure to fall for them.
Their techniques include making themselves your ideal person. They will watch you like their prey, laugh at your like the movies you like, go to the gym more or lie about it to impress youthey will commit to the win. They will play it cool. In some way or another they will find you out of their league if your not they are bored and you are what they think they want until you want more. A classic sign of this is their inability to show emotions other than positive ones.
Negative emotions such as sadness and anger make the Commitment Phobe feel weak and vulnerable and they do not like to be put in that position. They rarely loose their temper and the need to be liked and accepted is huge but the need to be needed is even larger.
If you have made it to stage 2 with the Commitment Phobe then you are very lucky.
You will be lucky if this relationship lasts more than a week because the second the Commitment Phobe has the title of boyfriend or girlfriend, they will question everything about you. The best thing you can do at this point is move slowly, hunt them, any quick movement and they will run for the hills.
They best thing you can do is go on a holiday for a month and get to know them from a distance. The lack of attachment stops the Commitment Phobe from feeling suffocated and they may begin to develop some trust in you.
However, when you return expect very little as the Commitment Phobe needs space. In a physical sense the Commitment Phobe goes two ways: Sadly unless changed by your incredible patience, smooth moves and some miracle through nature the Commitment Phobe will think of some excuse not to be with you.
She was subtle about wanting him gone but made his life a living hell — and the Commitment Phobe ironically commits to ending it. If they do break up with you they will do it a gently as possible.
They will try to be social and friendly when you come across each other through encounters. Not only will this freak them out, but their desire to be liked will impair their judgement and may push the boundaries. For example; I had a friend who AFTER he broke up with a Commitment Phobe she randomly bumped into his mum at an event, they got drunk went out clubbing together and his mum crashed on her couch.
This particular Commitment Phobe put being liked before appropriate break-up behaviour and knew exactly how to get his mother to like her. Apologies to you lovely folk out there who get your dreams of an adult relationship crushed by a Commitment Phobe, while frustrating, it is subconscious and unintentional.
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Dedicated to your stories and ideas. A website by Thought. As a person who is terrified of commitment I feel the need to express and explain to the poor unexpecting dating public how these innocent looking people can break your heart.
Have you ever wondered why that boy or girl who no matter how perfect your relationship seemed or how sure you were that they had feelings for you too, they always backed away and the flame blew out. Here are the 3 steps you go through when you are dating a person terrified of commitment. More From Thought Catalog. Can astrology explain — Akashvaani.