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Three way relationship dating column

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This week I'm delving into territory that sits on the polyamorous scale: All parties know everything that's going on so there's no lying or cheating. A throuple is more than just three-way sex: Basically, think of dating two people at once, who might also be Three way relationship dating column each other, and everybody in the trio knows about it and what they're in for.

Dating is difficult on its own, and feelings are unpredictable. If throuples can be successful, how do they do it?

I've spoken to two sets of friends with throuple experience to get a personal insight into how this all works. The first is a gay couple who've had two throuples with another man lasting two and five years, respectively. The other is a heterosexual-presenting couple who now have another woman in their relationship. The common agreement amongst them is that a throuple is an unusual lifestyle choice, but that doesn't take away its legitimacy.

People in throuples also tend to dislike the term throuple, or even labelling themselves at all. I found it too confusing to write a column on the subject without the consistent use of a noun, so I do apologise to anyone uncomfortable with the term "throuple" to begin with. Three way relationship dating column first point to note is that three-person relationships make most other people uncomfortable.

This doesn't matter internally — the only people of concern in a relationship should be those in that relationship — but regardless, throuples experience a lot of judgement from their peers. It's often why these relationships stay on the down low and are only revealed to very trusted friends, if at all.

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