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Where are all the christian men

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I am 24 and am told I am intelligent, pretty, loving and fun. I have a good job, a variety of interests and socialise with a diverse range of people, but I have never had a boyfriend. When I was 17, I became a Christian and I feel quite strongly that it is God's will that I marry a Christian, but no Christian man has ever asked me out. I am constantly asked out by non-Christians, several of whom I am attracted to and who would logically make good partners as they have compatible personalities and share common interests and goals.

I don't believe in sex before marriage, but this does not mean I do not Where are all the christian men sexual desires. I am finding it hard to wait, especially as all my non-Christian friends and even some Christian ones have not. I am lonely and feel torn. What should I do? I was 24 and Where are all the christian men not had many boyfriends when I met my now husband. Like me, he is Christian. There are nice, single Christian guys out there, but you need to put yourself out to find them.

Change your church if necessary and try going to big Christian events such as spring harvest, or working for a Christian organisation. When my granddaughter was 15 she started every utterance with, "As a Christian Are you subconsciously putting people off, including the minority who are committed Christians?

Let people see your personality, not just your philosophy. You will reach your own decision about sex before marriage and partnership with a non-Christian but in the meantime open your life up to all kinds of people.

This will enrich your social life and who knows where that could lead you? I am a Christian woman who married at 28, and would encourage you to reserve sex until marriage.

Like many couples who do not have sex until marriage, we had a lot of trouble getting our sex life started.

I felt cheated; Where are all the christian men had acted according to biblical principles, taken stick from our families and friends, and ended up with a decade of naff sex. We set about turning our Where are all the christian men life around and it is now better than I could have imagined, improves with practice and is a very important part of our relationship. I have sympathy with your wanting a relationship now, but most Christians will testify that God's timing is his business not ours and that the path of righteousness can feel very lonely.

I resisted having sex for years because I believed it was wrong outside marriage. At 22, a non-Christian male friend kissed me unexpectedly and the torrent of feelings this released made me realise how much I had closed myself off to this important side of life. It took another two years before I lost my virginity to the man I am still with. I finally felt ready and at ease with my body; don't let anyone make you feel ashamed of feelings that are perfectly natural - sex is a normal and healthy part of life.

Trust your instincts - if you are interested in someone who hasn't asked you out, why not ask him? Ultimately, if the men you meet don't share your beliefs, a relationship with them is likely to result in you having to compromise your faith. This probably sounds trite, but you need to pray about the situation: You don't have to choose between God and a boyfriend.

I became a Christian at 14 and was happy to save sex for marriage and to wait for a Christian boy who would become my God-given husband.