Messages You have no messages. Notifications You have no notifications. I saw this article online, but I usually like to skim past it and saw tons of comments. There was a BIG debate between the men and women. The women in one corner, only on the dating site "looking for friends".
Yes, on a dating site, looking for "friends only", because the best relationships start off as friends and not some kind of eye-candy for a man to bed. Apparently, there's some correlation that if a man is NOT looking friends on an online dating site that he's just wanting ONE thing. The men were arguing that the women were "doing it wrong" that if you want to make "Friends" go some place else to do it, volunteeer at an organization, join Meetup, find Apparently, some women tend to used dating sites if they are "Friends not dating site" in town" trying to establish a social circle, when in fact they should be looking elsewhere as the men stated that a dating site doesn't serve that purpose.
Some claimed, "I already have my social circle of friends, why would I come here to find more friends? According to some of the women, "Men looking to date, want sex and sex only.
Would it be dishonest to NOT to say you desire a woman sexually? Let's meet for lunch! Delete Report Edit Lock Reported.
Friends not dating site Your response must be between 3 and characters. Hierophant Send a private message. I think most women are a pain in the ass - and this debate simply more evidence of that. Being a male, I'll side with the other males in the debate - but not because of gender bias. Yes, sex is a part of that - a major part of it in fact -and any woman who is squeamish about sex and get paranoid about it - probably stinks in bed anyhow. Find people with healthier mindset regarding sex and intimacy as something shared between 2 people and not as a reward given for emotional compliance.
Delete Report Edit Reported Reply. Ababy3 Send a private message. Oh Lord, that is Friends not dating site lie you made in your head. Is the other way round sir. There is nothing disgusting about sex at all but women need to uphold certain standards.
If you have a sister or a daughter would you want her to jump into bed with some dude before she realize the dude don't want anything serious? So it's okay for a man to have sex and not want commitment but a woman can not go on a date to pass time and chat if she is lonely.
Here come the straw man arguments. No where did I say women should not have standards. But insisting men jump through hoops while dangling the sex carrot in front of their noses is no way to get an authentic response from a man.
What you will get instead are hard up guys who don't think they can do any Friends not dating site bending over backwards to show they want more than just sex If that's what you want, more power to you. And yes, I do find the women who hold sex as a carrot to be rather underwhelming when the time comes. And what "Friends not dating site" you know, we wound up the best of friends anyways. Funny how that can work eh?
Sure, it could have blown up in her face You got to be willing to take a risk and this 'friends 1st' nonsense is a silly way some women try to reduce risk. Ultimately there is no guarantee at happy ever after - even if you try the 'friends 1st' thing.
What you do risk with this approach is alienating most men Friends not dating site are interested in dating and limiting your potentials as result.
CaliMAn Send a private message. I want my daughters to grow into healthy women who prefer having sexual intimacy in a manner that fits their needs I'd prefer it be as part of a committed relationship, but that's for them to decide on their ownbut who will Friends not dating site tie their self-worth up in sex to such a degree that they will be left devastated by any guy who doesn't want a relationship with them.
The reality is that any guy my daughters date can dump them at any time, regardless of whether the guy says he wants something serious or not. Every relationship carries risk. My wife has never been really hurt by a guy whom she dated only a few times.
Being "serious" with a guy didn't save her from heartache. So the trick is teach them to view sex as Friends not dating site part of the intimacy between two adults in a burgeoning relationship To the first part Yes, I think it is okay for a man to have sex and not want a commitment There are plenty of guys and girls out there who indicate upfront that they just want sex.
That's not my preferred game, but I am fine if that's Friends not dating site other people want. Be honest that you just want sex, and then let the other person decide. If you just want sex and say so, that's fine. If you truly wanted a serious relationship, but then decide after a few sexual encounters that she's not the one you want to be with, that's fine. A guy who purposefully lies to a girl about wanting a long-term relationship just so he can trick her into a quick lay is NOT okay in my book.
There are plenty of women out there who are game for a casual fling, go find one of them. Likewise, it's fine for a girl Friends not dating site is feeling lonely to seek out someone whom she just wants to spend an evening platonically chatting with Going on a DATE with someone you have no interest in doing anything other than just passing time with is just plain mean and dishonest.
I mean, hell, if all these girls really just want a friend, then they should be hitting up all the other women on the dating site and asking them out.
Which brings me to the second part I don't bring my basketball to a golf course, stand on the first tee, and ask who wants to shoot some hoops. I don't go to a McDonald's Friends not dating site thru window, park my car at the front of the line, and ask someone to come rotate my tires for me.
There are plenty of other good places to go looking for platonic friends Bombtastic Send a private message. Wow you really pulled some assumptions out of what he was saying. Going on a dating site to find emotional fluffers is unethical that's all he was saying. And he's right any girl that is squeamish about sex and gets paranoid about it However, I can make my own decisions and choose the way I want to live.
Edited on July 7, at I agree with you but I still think it's okay for a woman to look for friends on dating sites if that's what she want to do. What you are saying is "I still think its ok to misuse a platform for an alternate agenda" by using that logic, its also OK to troll dating sites purely for sex partners? But people wanting the world to bend to their whims is rather Friends not dating site expectation. Like using a 'dating' site to bait and switch men into platonic relationships.
They aren't signing up for that - like CaliMan said - if you want friends, reply to the other women's ads and invite them to your house to watch Oprah or something. I mean, in my post, I explained my position that women who look for friends on dating sides are effectively being dishonest, rude, and obnoxious.
So, if you AGREE with me on that--you agree that women seeking out friends on dating websites are being dishonest, rude, and obnoxious--then how do you claim that such behaviors are "okay? If they are in yours, then we'll probably have to just agree to disagree, but I am still really curious as to why you think that kind of dishonest and rude behavior from women is Friends not dating site.